Helpful Pointers for Parents of College Freshman: Expect the Best

Parents of freshmen students may find these pointers from the Latasha Norman Center for Counseling and Psychological Services helpful in supporting your child's transition to college life.

The Norman Center is committed to working with JSU students experiencing certain adjustment challenges as they matriculate through their academic programs and college experience. The Center's mission is to provide services and activities that can assist Jackson State students as they transition and seek assistance with building their problem-solving skills, managing relationships and becoming more independent and confident.

A first time is just that, a first time! Whether your child is a first generation college student, or a first time college freshman, they are on their way to becoming a more independent adult. Are you more concerned about "an empty nest" or just a little concerned that they will remember their family values and use all the important skills they have acquired? Yes, you will miss them and they will miss you even though they may not tell you so. You want your child to succeed at being a college student and to graduate. Here are some tips that may help to keep your relationship with your loved one alive and meaningful and at the same time keep some of your worries to a minimum:

Expect the best (even though there may be a few bumps): The road to becoming a more mature, responsible adult can be filled with really great surprises as well as conflicting feelings and difficult decisions. As they transition from being homesick, "a little", to fully enjoying their new experience, be supportive and encouraging. Both you and your child may experience some confusion and hesitation in making new decisions about your new life. Remember you have and always will be very important in your son or daughter's life. Keep the communication lines open!

Parents of First -Generation Students: even though you or your mate didn't attend college, don't let that get in the way of you working with your child, work to appreciate the college experience. You want them to succeed. If you need to make visits to important university staff and/or with your child to talk with them about some process that may be confusing, do so! It is okay to explain why. The key is that you are making the best effort to support your child in their college journey. Support for first generation students is very important. Attend all orientation activities provided for parents and if possible try to meet and greet with other parents who may be experiencing the same thoughts and feelings. Encourage your child to work with their advisors and counselors and let them know how important that academic relationship is. Your first generation child is making the experience of college family history!

Money, Finances:-Let your child know that they must make responsible decisions about their financial situation. If they don't have it, don't try to spend money that should be used for important items such as a textbook or notebook. Encourage them to always plan for the future. There are many really good activities on campus that are free! Encourage them to check periodically for grants and scholarships they might qualify for. Also, there may be different academic or other activities that may have monetary rewards. Again, speaking with a counselor or advisor may be helpful in this area.
For more information, JSU students and parents may contact the Latasha Norman Center for Counseling and Psychological Services by calling 601-979-2203, or visiting the JSU Student Life website (www.jsums.edu/studentlife).