They’re Back for Summer… Do the Same Rules Apply?
The first summer home with your college student may take some getting used to. Your student has created a lifestyle of their own that may not follow the same rules that you established before they moved away. By communicating and compromising together, your family can have a happy household this summer. Here are some of the top issues families face the first summer home with their student.
Curfew — Your college student is used to a new college lifestyle where curfews do not exist. There may have been nights where your student stayed up late with friends or stayed up late studying. Work with your student to agree on a curfew that works for both of you — a time that won’t keep you up at night worrying.
Chores — During the first year, your student didn’t have someone telling them when to make the bed or tidy up. If you find your student’s room and habits are not up to standards during the summer, work with them to set clear expectations about what it means to live with the family but also be sensitive to the new found independence and lifestyle your student has created for themself. Be clear with your student about what you expect from them. One of the “house rules” might be that everyone contributes to running the household in some way. Decide as a family what those roles look like.
Sharing Space — College is known to make college students into night owls. If your student blasts music or movies at 1 a.m., ask them to plug in their headphones after a certain hour. This way your student doesn’t feel pressured to go to bed and the family can have a good night sleep. Discuss expectations about sharing space, and keeping noise at a comfortable level.
Friends — Your college student has acquired a larger social circle in college. If they constantly have friends over, work with them to establish nights where their friends can come over and when they cannot. This will allow for them to feel like they still have a social life, and give you a chance to designate certain nights for family time.
With any issues that arise, communication is the key. Before starting an argument, work with your student to solve the issue before it becomes a larger problem. Your first summer with your college student will bring changes, but by working together, the household can have a happy summer.
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